If you just sucked in all your breath thinking, “How can she say that?” then I can tell you either have never had a 12-year-old son, or your sweet little boys are under the age of ten. Now, of course, I would never harm my children. I adore them and see them as precious gifts from the Lord on High. This, however, does not get them to stop testing my limits of self-control daily.
As a mom of five sons, I would testify in a court of law that nothing tests a mom more than a 12-year-old son. Nothing. I mean NOTHING. Do you have a hormonal 12-year-old boy (maybe 11-13)?
My advice: Watch Captain America together.
Specifically, watch the scene where the wimpy Captain Rogers is transformed into Captain America.
Explain to your son, “this is EXACTLY what you are going through right now. You are the pre-captain, being pumped full of hormones that will transform you into being the man you are destined to be. It will hurt. It will cause pain. Not just for you but for those of us watching. But you will come through the other side.”
Mom, your job is to help your son through this “gauntlet of change”.
Your job is to realize that while it is hard, there are some definite boundaries. That’s why this clip is so great.
Not only does the Captain transform, but he shows that attitude is everything.
He never gives up.
- Not when he’s scared.
- Not when he’s in pain.
- Not when sparks fly.
He is alone in that machine. No one can see what he going through. Yet he doesn’t quit.
The woman in the scene just wants the pain to stop.
She cries, “STOP!”
Things explode. Things break.
Isn’t that just like a mom?
We hate watching our boys go through hard challenges, and nothing is more challenging than adolescence.
In the end, it is all worth it. Captain America comes out the other side.
In the end, it will be worth it for your son too. He will come out on the other side: a man. Yes.
Watch this with your boys.
Talk about it often!
Mama, don’t despair about your hormonal son.
He can make it through his transformation alive. It may not be fun for either of you.
But you will make it together.
6 Practical Ways to Survive Living with a 12-year old Son
- Pray often.
- Pray hard.
- Trust the Lord.
- If you are married, trust your husband’s instincts in regards to your son. This is not the time to coddle him. Love him, yes. Coddle him? no.
- Work that boy! Make sure he sweats daily. Forget what society says and hand that boy a shovel. If you do not have a yard big enough to keep him busy, lend him out to the neighbors or your local nursing home. (Obviously use discretion, but someone always needs help in their yard. Who knows? Maybe he’ll earn a few dollars as well)
- Give him purpose. He needs jobs to run and lead. Boys need to know they make a difference.