Inside: Real solutions for the Frustrated homeschooler
Right after you find the baby decorated her wall with her diaper contents, your homeschooler needs help with math.
You begin to cry.
It’s your husband calling to ask you to run a few errands in your free time today.
You cry some more.
So you cry again and pour cold cereal for dinner.
I bump into home-school moms all the time who are frustrated.
Are you one of them?
We, moms, worry about not being able to do it all. Don’t we?
I should just stop us right here.
Why is it that we believe that we should be able to do it all?
Whose standards are we living by anyway?
I think it’s just in our nature to compare ourselves to others.
We compare our kids, our homes, our families, our eating habits, our debt, our sins, our everything- don’t we?
As a veteran homeschooler, I need to encourage you to stop comparing. Stop striving. Stop trying to “do it all”.
I look nothing like Wonder Woman, yet I find myself trying to be just like her when I let my guard down.
So you’re having a lousy homeschool day.
You decided to tackle that Pinterest Art Project with your toddler. Things are going great until your 12-year-old needs help with math. The baby is due to go down for her nap, so you push your 12-year-old off for “just a minute”. You come back to find the toddler swimming in glitter and glue and your sweet 12-year-old is playing video games.
Quick, grab the toddler, throw her in the tub (gently) and ask 12-year old to watch her while you clean up.
Toddler out of the tub. Pop on a movie to keep her occupied.
Try to explain math lesson to 12-year-old and are startled by his sudden outburst of anger and tears. (Where did your sweet son go?)
You blink and the baby is crying and it’s well past lunch time. This cannot be.
5 Strategies for Killing Homeschooling Frustration
1. Stop for a second and snuggle with your kids.
2. Begin “Cocoa Corner”
Ignore your mind. Snuggle and read.
3. Make Someone’s Day.
4. Make a batch of cookies.
Whenever we find ourselves in a homeschool funk, we go to the kitchen and bake. I have five boys after all. Food is the way in, trust me on this.
We cook or bake something to give away: a plate of cookies, a homecooked meal. Funny how quickly doing something nice for others helps you escape the “woe is me’s”
You can make it a learning opportunity too!
You are perfectly suited to teach your children.
You will not be perfect. And yet… your kids have an amazing opportunity to learn from you.
Just this morning I was sitting in between two of my boys as they worked on math lessons.
Sure, there are other days that the same child will disassemble every mechanical device in the house in the two minutes it takes me to explain division to his older brother, but this morning was peaceful.
Forget “trying” to do it all.
- Choose a dirtier house over a spotless house if it means the home is happier.
- Choose fewer math problems and concentrate on mastery rather than endurance.
- Choose to hug and encourage rather than bark and complain.
- Choose to accomplish less, but to do it well over scheduling a multitude of tasks that can only be completed rather than absorbed.
If the baby decorates her wall again, its ok to cry.
But realize that moment doesn’t define you as a homeschooler.